We Are Not Here to Heal Others, We Are Here to Heal Ourselves
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A rainbow in a sky filled with dark clouds.
The story was that he had unresolved childhood trauma that he carried over into his adult life. Everybody knew about it and treated him with kid gloves never calling him out on his issues by doing or saying anything which could upset what would become a delicate balance of emotion and mental health, his mental health. He was a man-child.
This in itself would warrant sympathy but when the balance shifted from weak and feeble to contemptable and vicious, it became shameful, disrespectful, and quite simply, pathetic. His failure to address his deep-seated issues and instead to reassign that trauma from its original source to an innocent bystander was cruel and immature. His community supported him in his conduct by contributing to the punishing behavior. It’s a common practice and those of us who are compassionate and supportive of all sentient beings regardless of demographics or species tend to offer kindness, until we’ve had enough and then we switch our focus from them to ourselves. We are not here to heal others from their trauma, we are here to heal ourselves from our own trauma.
So, how do we do that? First, we allow ourselves to sit in the pain, never dismissing it or minimizing it because with the pain comes a valuable lesson and the experience will help us to step into a more powerful version of ourselves. The time and circumstance is different for everybody and that’s both frustrating and affirmative. The journey is individual.
After that we get to work, and this too is an individual experience in which we may trial though various approaches and/or modalities. Again, this is both frustrating and affirming. For me, I quite accidentally found tuning forks and through this discovery I found my healing. I started simply and slowly and after a very short time things started moving at lightning speed. I was able to heal not just the psychological trauma but also the physical issues I experienced, and which were exacerbated by the abuse inflicted on me.
And then, being a longtime but somewhat lapsed lightworker, I made it my mission to guide others through the process of healing from trauma whether workplace, childhood or societal by sharing what worked for me. With a great deal of self-reflection and diligence I was able to heal from this abuse, so I know it is indeed a possibility. Is it easy? No. Is it necessary? Yes. Will you be glad you put in the work? Absolutely.
Trauma of any kind, especially workplace trauma and abuse, doesn’t leave us easily or willingly. Its roots run deep because our foundation is rocked to its very core. We see ourselves as good people whose personal and professional integrity is brought into question by people we thought we could trust, people who we mistakenly thought respected us, people who professed their appreciation of us but, who in the end, and maybe all along, were nothing more than wolves in sheep’s clothing. They are people who are comfortable deliberately harming others without any remorse and who never deserved a place in our lives to begin with. But that’s part of the healing, knowing that our simple acts of kindness and tolerance elevated us not in an egocentric way but in a “there but for the grace of all goodness go I” way. With distance we are able to heal ourselves and perhaps even silently offer our heartfelt sympathies and best wishes for their own healing in whatever way supports them.
I was fortunate to have a wonderful support group which held space for me and helped me to see the steps I needed to take to move forward. Sometimes the advice came as clear, actionable instructions and other times the words spoken were subtle prompting me to contemplate my own next steps. Conversations have the ability to inspire both mental and physical action. Like the saying goes, two heads are better than one. In my case many heads contributed greatly to my one.
I am in a much better place now and that brutality is nothing more than a speck of dust in my rear-view mirror and this is why I offer the services I do – to help other people who have been left broken by the heartless actions of people who don’t deserve us.
Whether it’s vibrational therapy to ease physical ailments, sound therapy for relaxation, spiritual counseling for wellness of the mind and heart or any combination thereof, whether it’s long or short term, in person or remote, surrounded by four walls or by nature, we can find an approach which will ease you back into the self you lost to trauma.
You're going to be okay because together we'll make it okay.
🕉♥️🐩
© Diana Taylor, Peaceful Energy Healing
Photo: Delray Beach, Florida © Diana Taylor
Alt Text: A rainbow in a sky filled with dark clouds.
I assist people in rising from despair and depression caused by workplace abuse, guiding them towards healing and a sense of peacefulness. I achieve this through the ancient practices of vibrational sound and spiritual counseling.
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